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Forgiving and Forgetting Help Heal Your Heart!
This is a very important topic so I created a tab for it because I strongly believe it's something that everybody should do. I had
done this a while back but Trent who is one of our great members
spreading truth just recently made me realize that it's the key to
Forgiving and forgetting is something I had neglected to do for a long time. I was still holding a few grudges and anger in
my heart so today I began to write letters to every person that I
feel I ended on bad terms in some way. I'll explain exactly
what I mean and how you do it now.
Most of us have had relationships with people that have ended on bad terms. Maybe this person is still in your life in some
way but you just don't like them or don't spend any time around
them because of what happened at one point between you.
Maybe you felt that they did you wrong and perhaps they really did but hate is the dark side of the force and is not something
that will you make a better person. I don't think we can
really change the planet and become the best we can be until we can
forgive and forget anybody that we've had an issue with. Some
of these emotions are very strong and getting them out will give
you sense of closure regardless of whether the person you write
them to even responds or even if you can't reach them anymore.
At least you know that you did the right thing and tried your
best to tell them how you felt and you did it in a way that was not
accusatory in any way.
A really good way to do this is by writing them a little note or letter. It can be as short as long as you want it to be but
it should come directly from your heart. I just did this
again today and I'm creating this page because I would like to
start a trend of being the better person no matter what the
I can tell you one thing about this, it can be VERY emotional and that's okay. Get all those emotions out in your letter.
The important thing in the letter is NOT to dwell on the
injustice or problems you have in any kind of detail or be
accusatory in any way. This is not a BLAME letter but a
letter of forgiveness, appreciation and love. Even if this
person was really the worst person in the world you can come up
with SOMETHING nice about them that you got out of the relationship
or whatever. Everything is a learning experience after all.
Many of these people might not be in your life right now and you might have no way to contact them but that's okay. Write the
letter and print it and just put it in a folder or envelope called
Forgiveness and tuck it away somewhere. Your thoughts will go
out in the Universe and change the hate into love which is of
course the answer to everything. Some people you might be
able to track down in Facebook and if so GREAT send your letter to
them and cleanse your heart.
I'm going to share some very private things with you that were people that I could no longer reach anymore for various reasons.
I'm only sharing them so you can understand the concept and
realize that this letter is only to convey good feelings about the
person and not negative things no matter what. If you put any
negative things in the letter then it's worthlesss and you have not
learned your lessons.
Yesterday I was invited to a little project of going to an outdoor mall and holding up a sign that said "FREE HUGS" with two
women. This was not something that is in my normal comfort
zone because I'm actually quite shy! BUT since I promised
one of the women I would do it, I did not want to go back on my
word. It turned out to be a really GREAT experience for me
because it showed me how many awesome people there are in the world
that wanted Hugs and really liked what we did! We had quite a
few huggers before we run off by mall police...LOL But next
time we will do it in a public park where they can't stop
Let's start a trend here and not let negative emotions block us from love in any way. I would love to see everybody try this
little exercise because you never know the good that come from it
until you do. Please send me your experiences and share any good
that came out of it! I think you will be VERY surprised as I
was at how much better you feel after you are done.
Everybody you have been in touch with has taught you something if you really think hard about it. Take your ego completely out of
the equation as I said. Read the letter several times and
make sure there is no accusations or blame game going on.
This letter is to mend fences and to tell the person some
good things you enjoyed about them. Remember it doesn't
matter if they even respond or if they can't get it because the
universe hears every thought you make.
These were some of my letters to those I can't reach anymore. I'm sharing them so you can see that you don't want to blame
the other party for anything. If anything blame yourself or
just don't get into details. I think the best thing to do is
to tell them the great things about themselves. My last
letter to Amanda proves that you can find the good in any situation
if you look hard enough.
I love you so much and miss you terribly! You were the one person that I could count on that would always keep me safe and you
taught me much! You were always the Dad that all my friends
talked about. You took me up in airplanes, went diving with
me and even took the family on a great adventure up to Alaska for
many years! You really were the best Dad in the whole
Even when you got older and got sick I still knew that if I ever got put in a FEMA camp that you would never give up until you saved
me. You would call every Army buddy you ever had and round up
a team of mercenaries and come bust me out no matter what!
It's scary knowing that you aren't here to back me up
You were the bravest man I ever knew Dad and you went to Vietnam because you thought it was the right thing to do at the time. I do what I do because I think it's the right thing to do also.
Later in life we had some fights but I know that it was only because you wanted the beset for me. But God made me follow
my own path just like you followed your own path. I think you
would understand that now if you were still here. Even if we
didn't always see eye to eye I always knew that you loved me and
would do anything for me and that's what made me into the person I
am. I could have never achieved anything without you!
I'm sorry that we had any fights Dad but I am writing this letter to let you know how I feel about you. I will do my
best to make sure Mom stays safe and Mark will take over if
something ever happens to me. I know that you are in a better
place now and you have a lot of friends there with you because you
were always the most popular guy around!
You were my first and only wife. To do this day I still don't fully understand everything that happened that led to our
annulment but whatever it was, it doesn't matter now. Getting
through our failed marriage was one of the very toughest things I
ever had to deal with but I really believe that everything happens
for a reason. You're a really good person with a good
Thank you so much for teaching me about osteopathy and some of the natural ways to heal the body. These are things that made
me want to learn much more that has been hidden from us. It's
also what makes me want to share natural cures with as many people
I have no idea where you are now but I'm sure you are still very active in a Church and having positive impacts on all those around
you. God bless you and your family and I really hope you are
achieving all the things you wanted to do!
You were my first love Anne and that's why the break up was the hardest thing I ever went through as a young man. At the time
I was upset at you and later avoided you because it brought back
the pain but I just wanted you to know that I valued what we had
and even though it didn't work out, I know that you taught me a
lot. You even helped me get through Calculus in college!
That was the hardest course I had ever had and you were the
reason I got through it! Swimming with you in our High School
days was one of the greatest memories of my life. You were
the smartest woman I've ever met!
Thank you for your friendship and everything we shared and even though I don't know how to contact you to give you this letter, I'm
sending it through the Universe now. I wish you and your
family all the best in the future!
I was very angry at you when our relationship ended and you ran your Honda through my garage door trying to hit me but I know now
that I provoked this action by giving you the finger. I'm
very sorry for that! When I was younger I sometimes let my
emotions get the best of me and I should have walked away instead
of getting angry with you. You didn't deserve that.
I still remember the time when I picked you up from work for a trip to NASA in Houston and you thought I said we were going to
NASAUU. Your friends at work told you that you can't get to
the Bahamas by car so you were confused. You still were a
good sport and we had a nice trip even though it wasn't as nice as
NASAUU I'm sure!
You really did teach me some valuable lessons during our brief relationship and it certainly was never boring! Nobody was as
fearless as you were when it came to many things and you were
always very determined at reaching your goals! No matter
where you are, I hope life is going well for you and that you are
achieving all your dreams!